It's all my fault 💣

I want to share some quick observations on judgement through the lens of shadow integration, based very much on my own experiences of being a righteous ass hat… 🤫 

There’s an unattached form of judgement.. making a call, recognizing a pattern or behavior that we don’t want to be around, identifying how something effects us, etc…. 

and there is an attached form of judgement…

the kind of judgement we want to tell everyone about, dwell in and persecute people for.

We feel upset, victimized, angry, righteous or put-out by this thing that we’re judging. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 

This second form of judgement is, and can only ever be, about the self. There’s a charge around this judgement. 
This person is WRONG, and it BOTHERS us. 

But the thing is, it only bothers us because, without realizing it, we’ve made the whole thing about OURSELVES… 

This is the kind of judgement that makes us want to control others… it makes us feel righteous and right… in fact, this is the kind of judgement that is at the root of most of the worlds evil. ("I'm right about this thing, they are wrong, and I need to DO something about it" kind of evil.)

So when we feel this kind of judgement, there is only one thing to do… look inward. 

Ask yourself: “Why am I so bothered by this?” 

Maybe we have fear that we might be this way, maybe we've been hurt by this kind of behavior before, maybe it's been drilled into us that this is WRONG. Whatever it is, if we're feeling all FIRED UP about it, it's an indication that doing some introspection and integration on this will help us alchemize our own shadow and free up our energy to focus on what we want to create, rather than stress about what other people are doing.

This is why shadow work can be challenging. We WANT to point to something or someone outside of us… but the charge is coming from within, and that’s where we have to make the change... within.

🖤 Keep on keepin’ on my loves, 

Lucy B.

p.s. Join me in Shadow Hacker if you haven't already. It's my epic free community for people who are willing to look deeply into themselves and work with the lead and the gold that they find. See you there!